Choosing People Who Choose You

Choosing People Who Choose You

I swear I’m not trying to flex when I say this, but my heart is a little too big. By that I mean, it’s too open and available. All it takes is one positive interaction for me to care about someone and to invest in their feelings towards me. The problem with keeping a “For Rent” sign on your heart is that you remain in a constant state of instability and unease.

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The In-Between Stage

The In-Between Stage

With graduation less than two weeks away, I’m feeling strange. Though I think about it often, the gravity of these remaining days being my last days of college FOREVER still hasn’t hit me. My brain is having a hard time processing this fact. This is made weirder by the fact that I haven’t stepped foot on my physical campus in over a year, so it feels like I’m preparing to say goodbye to an estranged friend. At the same time, the transition away feels strangely natural. It seems right that I should be moving on to the next thing. It feels right to be planning goodbye dinners and post-graduation trips because it’s been a long time, right?

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Boundaries & Why You Should Set Them

Boundaries & Why You Should Set Them

A couple of days ago, I decided to end contact with someone I was getting to know and was starting to care about. I made future plans with this person and discussed what a deep connection with them would look like. I got invested in knowing them and understanding them. I looked forward to speaking to them every day and hoped their contact would become a normal part of my daily routine.

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Life as a Black Christian Right Now

Life as a Black Christian Right Now

My faith took a big hit the latter part of last year. The summer was full of protests, destruction, and pain. Black people were being killed for existing and half the country couldn’t wrap their heads around why that would be something painful. I was particularly disappointed to see people who claimed to be Christian be loud and proud racists. I was disgusted by their behavior and by any religious institution that would promote hatred in the name of the Jesus I thought I knew.

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