This is a day late and I apologize. Life has been a bit crazy lately. I want you to know that this post is very close to my heart and something I just had to share because I think we all go through this. I hope this encourages you as much as it encouraged me.

Why God? Why are things not going my way? Why are other people getting opportunities over me? Why are doors slamming in my face? Why does no one believe in me?

I know we’ve all grappled with these questions. I know I have. It can feel near impossible to feel grateful when your hopes are going unfulfilled. I’ve had days of depression, where I‘ve isolated myself and stayed in bed all day. I’ve fallen into deep holes of mourning for unrealized dreams. Looking back, it feels a little embarrassing that I allowed opportunities that weren’t for me to make me feel sad enough to stay inside, but in the moment those feelings were very real.

If I’m being completely honest, there are still disappointments that lie in the depths of my heart. I’ve realized though that isolation is not the right response. It’s when we cut off ourselves from God, our friends, and our family that the disappointments become holes of self-pity. When we cut off God, we start to believe that our disappointment is permanent, when in reality it’s temporary. When we cut off God, we forget to praise him for the gifts we’ve already been given. I am guilty of both.

So how do I overcome disappointment?

You can overcome disappointment in many ways. First, gird yourself in truth. The enemy will have us believe that we are not children of the Most High and that His plans for us are not good. These are definitely lies I’ve bought into. Make sure you’re feeding your soul with scripture and not lies.

Another way to overcome disappointment is to pray about it. I think it’s often discouraged to feel emotions. It is perfectly ok to be disappointed and sad! The best person to cast those feelings on is Jesus. In fact, he begs us to come to him and lay our heartbreaks and disappointments at the foot of the cross.

Lastly, praise, praise, praise. I was watching one of my favorite shows, Call the Midwife and the midwives were mourning the loss of one of their close friends. One of the midwives asked another how she remained so joyful through such a tragic loss. She replied, “A smile is not hard to do. You turn up the corners of your face and before you know it, it becomes true.” The same idea applies here. When you praise God, it is hard to maintain the sadness in your heart. Sometimes we have to encourage ourselves. We have to remember that the promise is not revoked, it only lies in the future.

My mother taught me a prayer when I was very young, and it has sustained me since. I say it before class, interviews, or just days when it feels like my hopes will never come true. It goes like this,

I am valuable. I am loved. God has a great plan for my life. I have favour wherever I go. God’s blessings are chasing me down and overtaking me. Everything that I touch, prospers and succeeds. I am excited about my future.

Amen.

Fearless one, I am here to tell you that there is beautiful, abundant life after disappointment. So, dig in deep and get on your knees. I’m doing the same. Know that anything God has for you cannot be stopped by anyone. Your favour cannot be diminished by anyone! I am excited about your future and mine. All will be well.

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